The accident

I was in a bad wreck the other day, which I wrote about here.

That already sums up the specific details relevant to this. You may not completely understand this unless you read that first.

I don’t know how I’m going to be okay yet and a lot of that remains to be seen.

First of all, if I get reimbursed for my car, I’ll still have to pay another $5,000-$10,000 to get an equivalent replacement in terms of quality and mileage. Toyotas like mine hold on to their resale values extremely well and more importantly, the used car market went berserk during Covid and hasn’t returned to anything remotely normal. I’m not sure if it ever will, to be honest.

It may actually be a better deal to get something brand new. I know how lucky I am to be able to consider that but I also don’t want to use up so much of my limited remaining money. I want to save enough money to pay for private supervision to get my licensing hours when I do my therapist training, rather than working in an agency.

Secondly, you may have noticed that I said if I get reimbursed at all for the value of my car. That is possibly in question because I don’t know yet if either of the two drivers I hit will sue me and how that may affect my reimbursement. I’m sorry but I cannot say more. I didn’t even know that drivers can sue you for a normal car accident, especially if they walk away from it without injury, as I’m pretty sure both of them did.

I’m now trying to find out how common it is to be sued in such an event.

I am absolutely praying that I won’t be sued for so many reasons. I can’t handle the stress of a lawsuit. I can’t afford a lawsuit, either.

My car insurance rates are going to substantially climb as a result of this and I don’t know how I’ll afford that, either.

This one event has so much potential to completely alter my whole life, including the credit score I’ve worked so hard to rebuild.

Meanwhile, I am trying to figure out how to simply get by at home. I had to bathe and wash my hair today, for which I needed a lot of help from Chloe. We had to run through multiple scenarios to figure out the best way to do it. We finally settled on giving me a sponge bath (fortunately I was able to wash my front torso and between my legs, so I didn’t have to make it any more awkward and invasive than it already was for either of us because she had never seen me naked before) and we washed my hair while leaning over the bathtub.

It really reminded both of us of how I had to do the same for her after she was hit by a car at 13 years old. She was really too old for me to bathe her at the time but she was physically unable to do it by herself. And now we’ve clearly come full circle.

Chloe can’t really drive her rental car right now. I noticed on the day of the accident that her brakes are grinding, which suggests at a minimum that it needs new brake pads. I told her that she has to call the rental car company tomorrow to let them know what’s going on with it and to find out if she should still be driving it or if she needs a new rental car.

The body shop where she took her car said that it should have been done by the end of last week but then she didn’t get any more updates. Apparently the other driver’s insurance company is dragging their feet about paying for it, even though none of this is a surprise to them.

I have to get a lot of things out of my car by Monday. I remembered that I had a ton of stuff in my trunk that needs to be returned, about $200 worth. I can’t afford to let that go. Amy is on standby for backup transportation if Chloe’s car isn’t ready by Monday.

Did I already mention that Chloe had to submit her resignation and two weeks’ notice at Starbucks? After working so hard to even get a job there in the first place, it’s now clear that she has to quit.

She has a new manager, the third in an equal number of months. The store is slated to permanently close in the next few months and the employees are supposed to get transfers to other stores. But the manager seems to think that all the employees there suck and need to be completely retrained and she seems to think Chloe’s one of the worst for some reason, probably because she’s so new.

Although Chloe did not get any training at all, she has learned her job pretty well. Several regular customers seek her out specifically. But the manager is assigning hours based on some Hunger Games-style competition of who she thinks deserves them. Chloe is getting below the Starbucks minimum number of hours and she feels like she’s being “soft fired.”

Because she wants to have the possibility of rehire someday, she doesn’t want to get fired, so she figured that she should try to get out before that can happen. She says there’s virtually no chance that she can impress her manager enough to change her mind. I can’t tell because she’s the one there, so I have to assume that she’s seeing things correctly.

I won’t be able to drive again for at least 6 weeks. Dyl’s off work until January 2nd but he’s already planning other ways to get there and back once he returns. As sad as it is for me to say it, I’m very glad he’s finding alternatives to me driving him because doing so was incredibly disruptive to me and what I can do myself.

Chloe plans to try to get a waitressing job so that her entire income is dependent on tips. She knows that it will be physically demanding work but she believes that she can do it (and I agree.) She knows that her customer service skills are exceptional and thinks that she can make a lot of money waiting tables. I’m inclined to agree and I think her plan is excellent. But it absolutely sucks that Starbucks has turned out this way for her.

Once I fully recover from this, I probably need to find a job of my own. I really, really hope that it will be something remote.

Everything in my entire life was turned upside down by this accident. Some of it was very good but some of it was very bad, too.

I have more stuff to write about, especially what Cat told me on Thursday morning. It was very significant and will potentially change my life for the better within the next year if she’s right, which I think she is.

But man, that accident just flipped my entire world around and I’m trying to find out what to do next.

I’m lucky to still be alive. The nurse and the cop who helped me after the accident said that they’ve both seen other similar accidents and the drivers didn’t survive them. It was only my seatbelt that spared me and allowed me to walk away from it with minimal injuries.

I don’t even know what to think about that; I’m still trying to process it. But if at all possible, I’m going to try to enroll in grad school next fall to become a therapist. Nothing like a near-death experience to make you realize what you really want to do with your life.

I somehow got a second chance at life and I am extremely grateful for that.

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