This is not about whether or not you should forgive a narcissist, whether you’re friends with one, in a relationship with one, or have a parent or family member who is one.
I read a whole lot of stuff about narcissists last night and got myself quite scared.
Narcissists are experts at weaponizing the forgiveness of others and I fear that this may have happened to me. I really don’t want to believe that’s what happened but it may be and if so, there’s nothing I can do about it.
I was reading that narcissists will often pretend to be like people they admire as a way of gaining their trust, while they know all along what they are doing. The people in the so-called dark triad are drawn to people in the light triad and use them as easy marks.
I really don’t want to believe that this has happened to me. But if indeed it has, forgiveness is the next step.
Not forgiving them because they’ll see it as permission to hurt me again. But forgiving myself. I am not a bad person who deserved to be taken advantage of. It is not a personal weakness that I was easily duped.
But it does mean that I have to fortify and strengthen my resolve and my sense of self-preservation.