On the one hand, I am quickly becoming much better friends with Cat. It’s hard to believe that our friendship started out with me flaking out on going out on a date with her literally just as I was getting ready to leave for the date, when I decided that I just couldn’t do it after all.
She kept talking to me after that and that was a big part of why we’re still getting closer: she still thought I was worth getting to know better anyway.
She has admitted that she would like it if we get to a point of having a sexual relationship someday but she hasn’t been pushy about it at all. But it’s more than that; she also said she will be okay if it doesn’t happen, too. Either it will evolve in that direction or it won’t and only time will tell. She’s stable and secure either way.
It’s a lot like the meme I often see online about friendship, that it’s not about how long you’ve known someone but how well you click. I already feel more comfortable with her than I have with other people I’ve known for much longer.
She talks to me every day and never once has she made me feel judged. As a result, I’ve already told her some things about my past that I’ve never told anyone other than J and the kids. (Yes, there are some things I even keep a secret here, too.)
She laughs at the ways in which I’m hopelessly goofy and dorky, like my inability to parallel park, without making me feel like she’s making fun of me. She totally gets my sarcastic sense of humor in a way that few people even get to see because they just wouldn’t get it, which has the result of making me joke around more. Communicating with her is easy and effortless. She remembers what I’ve told her. She respects my boundaries and encourages me to have more of them.
She’s dedicated to working on herself in the same way that I am, which is so refreshing. She takes accountability for her own shit and doesn’t make excuses, and she’s extremely self-aware. I feel like I’m helping her and she’s helping me.
I honestly haven’t met anyone else that I clicked with this easily since J.
I know. That’s every bit as significant as it sounds.
Note that that’s not to say that I think we’ll end up together like I did with J. I don’t know if we will or if she’ll just end up being an incredibly close friend. But it’s a new friendship that I value a whole hell of a lot, especially right now.