My sister-in-law is driving from Tennessee in about 2 weeks to be here for my youngest’s high school graduation, just as she did when my middle child graduated high school two years ago.
Granted, it helps that she still has a lot of family in this area, since she lived here for more than 20 years. And her schedule has a lot of flexibility because she’s a teacher. But if my sister wants to know how to stay close to our kids despite the distance, well, this is one way that really matters.
I’m actually really looking forward to seeing my sister-in-law. She’s my favorite person in J’s family by far, now that his grandma passed away. (No one can ever top his grandma. She was incredibly special and I still greatly miss her.)
I can’t help but notice that this time, J’s mom is not coming along, like she did for my middle child’s graduation. On the one hand, that’s kind of a relief, because she can be very difficult to deal with. But on the other hand, she also had an excuse for why she couldn’t come, which was something she totally could have worked around if she really wanted to. But she’s pretty selfish and what she wants always comes first.
The sad reality is that she may never again see J while he’s still alive. It’s just a fact and it makes me so incredibly sad. Even if we choose to take vacation time to go back and visit family in Michigan, she lives so remotely that it would be several hours away.
But as for my sister-in-law, she learned well from her mother how not to be. My sister-in-law is truly a joy to be around. She’s a pretty devout Christian, but one of the types who seems to truly live her faith and is not judgmental about it. I really wish more Christians could be like her. Heck, I wish more people could be like her, period.
She’s fully vaccinated and so are we, so according to the CDC, we’ve got the green light for hanging out together unmasked. We’ll get to give rounds of hugs, which after this past year especially will be so wonderful.
I can’t wait to see her. She’s always there when it really counts and I’m counting my blessings to have her in my life.